Relationships are HARD. I could really end this post right there. But that’s not why I got out of my bed as I was trying to fall asleep. Too many thoughts and feelings that I couldn’t shake—so I got up and started to write (AKA type). Lately there has been a lot of relationship struggles going on, not only in my life, but in the lives of those around me. There are some cases where I know the details of those involved. In other instances, I’m merely seeing things from an outsiders perspective. If I am honest, I tend to settle into my frustrations rather than ask questions. I complain more than I pray. I become more irritable than loving. Yet that’s not the place I want to live. I want to love others well, but how often do I really sit and think about what that looks like? Not very often. God has been bringing this verse to my memory continually, that “we do not battle against flesh and blood” (Ephesians 6:12). We are in a spiritual battle. We of course see certain things manifest physically, but everyone has an internal battle that they are experiencing. Are we willing to sit with others and invest them? To love them with no agenda and trust that love alone is enough?
“Love empowers us to fulfill the law of the Anointed One as we carry each other’s troubles. If you think you are too important to stoop down to help another, you are living in deception.” Galatians 6:2-3 TPT
One of my favorite songs by Skillet has a verse that says:
“What will you do to make a difference, to make a change? What will you do to help someone along the way? Just a touch, a smile as you turn the other cheek. Pray for your enemies, humble yourself, love’s staring back at me in the midst of the most painful faces. Angels show up in the strangest of places.”
That song just wrecks me. I need that reminder DAILY (maybe even hourly) to just love others, even in the smallest of ways. To lay down my pride and tell myself, “it’s not about you”. Because though I may not speak it with my mouth, I live that way more than I care to admit.
“Let brotherly love continue. Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some have unwittingly entertained angels.” Hebrews 13:1-2 NKJV
“He who loves his brother abides in the light, and there is no cause for stumbling in him.” I John 2:10 NKJV
“We love Him because He first loved us.” I John 4:19 NKJV
Every place I go, every person I meet is not by accident. It is a divine appointment. But I cannot know what lies within those moments if all I am doing is thinking about myself, and waiting for others to reach out to me first. True love always makes the first move. Love takes the risk of rejection. Love triumphs over fear. Love lays itself down in the midst of our pride.
“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.” I Corinthians 13:4-5, 7-8 NKJV
As we go about our day, let us go in love and remember that life is bigger than us. And therein lies our freedom.